Do you suffer from low self-esteem? Do you wallow in self-pity? You don't have to. We are conditioned to believe that loving oneself is being selfish and, therefore, we experience a sense of guilt.
Loving your own self doesn't mean ignoring your imperfections or being selfish - it doesn't mean that you say, "I am perfect and don't need to change." Loving yourself is not a selfish act. It does not imply that you must ignore the needs of others. Nor does loving oneself need to involve doing so with arrogance.
Instead, to love yourself involves personal awareness. Self-love means you pay attention to your feelings, your perspective. You are fully aware of your own needs while recognising the needs of others. If you don't feel fulfilled within, how can you properly reach out and become deeply fulfilling to others?
If you cannot love and respect yourself for the person you are, how will others accept and love you? If i don't enjoy my own company, how can i expect others to find me interesting? Ask: Could you live with yourself on a deserted island?
Self-love means loving and accepting yourself the way you are, while acknowledging fully the changes that you need to make in your life. Recognise the areas in your life that you need to improve upon or enhance, and all the while, do so without beating yourself up for it.
It's human to err, to make mistakes, to know defeat and to face failures. We grow from this. However, what is important is not to indulge in self-blame but to accept what needs to change, while acknowledging and respecting what is good in you. Release the past and move on.
When you look at yourself in the mirror, what do you feel? What or who do you see? Can you look in the mirror and say, "I love you exactly the way you are?" Can you say, with conviction: "I love you, because i recognise that you are unique and wonderful?" Can you forgive yourself for not being what you want to be? Can you forgive others for the hurt and the pain they caused you?
By forgiving yourself and others, you begin to feel grateful for what is rather than running for what should be. With forgiveness, you can experience the beauty of the present moment. Forgiveness is one of the essential ingredients of accepting and loving your unique self.
We often feel that forgiving and letting go is for others. We forget that when we hold on to the pain and the grief and hurt caused by others - and if don't forgive - it is like holding hot coal in our hands, refusing to throw it.
Do you trust your abilities and know what is good, unique and wonderful in you? If your answer is in the affirmative, it means you are manifesting a life of your dreams. If negative, then you need to delve deeper into your mind and soul to find what is stopping you from living your dreams.
We talk about loving others and of doing things for others but, if a part of you, somewhere deep down, is aching, frustrated and belittled, how can you do justice to others? So your first responsibility is to your own self?
Reach within and find the real you; feel assured that you have great potential. Use it.
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