Manage Your Own Anger

How can I control my anger? Lifestyle optimisation and self-discipline
are the only strategies to manage anger. Each alphabet of the word
'anger' represents a negative emotion: agitation, negativity, grief,
enmity and revenge. But anger could easily be transformed into
positive energy; then the word 'anger' would represent agile, noble,
gratitude, excellence and respect.
What Is Anger?
Anger is defined as a negative physical, mental, psychological and
environmental response to an adverse situation. If it is not managed
well, it could be disastrous not only for the individual, but for the
entire society. Mild forms of anger include displeasure, irritation
and dislike. When we react to frustration, criticism or threat, we
become angry.
It is a 'fight or flight' response and helps us deal with the
situation. Once the crisis blows over, the irritation or displeasure
also disappears.
But when anger becomes full-blown rage, our judgement and thinking
become impaired. In such a situation, we are likely to be unreasonable
and irrational. This changes our neuro-immuno-biochemistry and
adversely affects our system. Our heartbeat and blood pressure go up;
there's an increase in the levels of epinephrine and norepinephrine.
Violent anger usually becomes thepredominant feeling and takes over
our behaviour, cognition and physiology.
Anger is, therefore, considered bad if it impairs cognition and
results in abnormal or inappropriate physiological response.
Mismanaged anger is a major cause of conflict in personal and
professional relationships. It ultimately leads to disturbed ease or
diseases such as high blood pressure, heart ailments and stroke.
What Makes You Angry?
The commonest things that make people angry are rudeness, humiliation
and injustice. Anger also rises in stressful situations such as
hunger, pain, deadlines and traffic jams. There are certain emotional
and physiological conditions under which you feel angry:grief at
losing a loved one, sexual frustration, failure, infidelity, financial
problems, premenstrual and postmenopausal syndrome and physical and
mental illnesses.
Anger Makes You Sick
When we become violently angry, release of stress hormones such as
epinephrine, norepinephrine and cortisol get disturbed, triggering off
palpitation, increased BP and heart rate, breathlessness,
restlessness, hyperacidity and sleeplessness. Repeated episodes of
anger can make you prone to heart attack, stroke, irritable bowel
syndrome and a weakened immune system.It may also lead to depression,
eating disorder, alcohol and drug abuse, moodiness and low
self-esteem.
Keep It In Control
Anger management is, therefore, absolutely necessary for good health
and healthy relationships. Just one fit of anger can result in
asignificant rise in blood pressure and precipitate a heart attack, we
must adopt techniques to manage anger in a way that it does not have
an adverse effect on our system. As they say, "Yatha pinde, tatha
brahmande!" as you are, so is the universe.
We have 60 trillion cells in our body and six trillion chemical
reactions are occurring every second in accordance with the laws
ofnature. We are not even aware of it. Thus, this whole universe or
external environment is like a cosmic computer and these cells act
like the terminals of the cosmic computer.
But who is the programmer? It's our mind. Our mind is the expression
of the cosmic mind and our energy is the expression of cosmic energy.
A healthy mindset is responsible for perfect health and negative
mindset is responsible for anger and disease. Every bitof the universe
is in us and every bit of us is in the universe. Whatever you think
and every word you utter in anger has a negative impact on your
system. If you want to know what your thoughts and emotions were in
the past, look at your body today. And if you want to know what your
body will be in future, look at your thoughts and emotions today.
Thus, the emotion of anger is an expression of our own perceptions,
thoughts, interpretations, experiences and our own choices. Anger is
not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice.
If we shoot an arrow of anger and hate, the same arrow will strike us
back. If we shoot an arrow of love, the same arrow will come back to
us. Shoot arrows of positive thoughts and intentions. If youwant to be
loved, love others. If you want to be happy, make others happy.
Source By: H K Chopra |